After considering Buber's and Levinas's critiques of Heidegger and of each other, I propose that we should acknowledge authenticity (Heidegger), "essential relations" of love and friendship (Buber), and holiness (Levinas) as aspects of a good life, though they pull in different directions. We should resist the temptation to take sides in a battle between different approaches to the complex nature of our social being.